Yacov Nordlicht – Veyera And Kindness

In this week’s weekly Torah portion, we find the passage of our forefather Avraham when he was visited by three angels immediately following his circumcision. The Torah relates how Avraham (painfully) ran out to greet them, then brought them into his house, washed their feet and gave them a lavish meal to eat. The question many are bothered by, is why does the Torah feel the need to go into such great detail towards the way Avraham treated his guests? Nothing is extra in the Torah, and therefore, what’s the purpose of telling us all of these small little things that Avraham did? They were things which probably took thirty seconds and they happened 4,000 years ago! Why do they carry such significance that the Torah chose to write them, and how are they relevant to us today?

The answer, I believe is based on two different pieces of Talmud which deal with Chesed (kindness). On the one hand, the Talmud in tractate Sotah teaches the obligation on each individual to act with kindness from the verse of “acharei Hashem teileichoo”, or “after Hashem you shall go.” Obviously it can’t mean to literally go after Hashem, for Hashem isn’t physical and therefore cannot be physically followed. Rather, says the Talmud, the verse is teaching us to follow after the ways of Hashem. Just as He clothes the naked, so too should you cloth the naked, just as He is kind, so too you should be kind etc… On the other hand, the Talmud in tractate Shabbos explains that it the obligation for kindness comes from a different verse, that of “ze keili v’anvaihoo”, or “this is my God, and I shall glorify Him..” How does a person glorify Hashem? Says the Talmud, that emulating His ways is the highest form of glorification. Therefore, just as he is Kind, so too you shall be kind…

There’s a question which seemingly results from these two paragraphs in the Talmud. There’s a foundational idea about our Torah that there isn’t one extra word in our Torah, and therefore two different verses wouldn’t come to teach the same thing. If this is true, what’s the explanation of the two Talmudic passages? There are two different verses teaching us the obligation for chesed?!

The answer I think is as follows (it’s also found in the book “leket sichos mussar” by Rabbi Yitzchak Issac Sher of Blessed memory): Really, there are two different aspects inside the trait of Kindness. The first verse tells us the obligation to be kind and to walk in the ways of Hashem and our forefathers. The second verse, however, teaches us something different. It’s not referring the obligation to act in a kind manner; rather it relates a separate obligation to feel the kindness in our hearts. In other words, it’s an obligation to feel that through the acts of kindness that we do to one another, we are emulating Hashem. We have to feel that we are copying exactly His methods and course of action. In this way, like a son who copies his father, we get closer to Him.

I think this is the explanation to our first question. Why does the Torah go into such detail about the way Avraham treated his guests? Because the Torah obligates us not just to do chesed, but rather to also feel that the chesed is a direct emulation of Hashem’s chesed. And what type of Chesed is that? It’s a chesed to always focus on the little thing. Really, it’s true; the act of washing a visitor’s foot is such a small action which happened so long ago! Why do we need to know about it? Because that’s what chesed is. It’s not just to do the big things. In order to really feel the chesed, we have to care about the small things.

As we’ve said before, the word Torah comes from the root of hora’ah, which means “to guide”. It serves as a guidebook for us to derive the most out of this world. When the Torah talks in depth of the kindness of Avraham, it’s guiding us towards the essence of what chesed is. And chesed isn’t just saving a friend from drowning. Rather it’s finding someone who’s down and cheering them up. It’s saying I love you to a loved one even when you’re just doing it because you know it’ll make them happy. And above all, it’s showing that you care.

Rabbi Binyomin Adler – The Message Of Vayera

Avraham and Eradication of Evil


This week’s parashah contains a theme that appears to run throughout the entire parashah. The Torah commences this week with the incident where Avraham has just been circumcised and despite his pain, he invites three strangers to partake in a sumptuous meal. Avraham himself waits on his guests and he is then informed that he and his wife Sarah will be having a child. The guests, who are angels in disguise, then depart to destroy the city of Sodom and its surroundings.

Praying for the wicked people of Sodom

HaShem informs Avraham of the tragic state of affairs in Sodom, and Avraham prays to HaShem to spare the cities in the merit of the righteous. HaShem informs Avraham that there are no righteous people in all the cities and Avraham desists from praying further. The angels then enter Sodom where they are greeted by Lot who invites them into his house. The residents of Sodom are not pleased with this act of hospitality and they attempt to harm the visitors. HaShem causes the citizens of Sodom to become blind and the angels then proceed to escort Lot and his remaining family out of the city. HaShem then destroys Sodom and its environs and Lot escapes with his two daughters. Lot and his daughters then engage in an illicit relationship, and the union bears the two forerunners of the Ammonite and Moabite nations. The Torah then records how Avraham settles in the Philistine city of Gerar and the king of Gerar, Avimelech, abducts Sarah. HaShem then punishes Avimelech and his household by restraining their orifices.

Yishmael is banished and Avraham and Yitzchak are tested by Hashem. The Torah then relates how Sarah gave birth to Yitzchak and subsequent to Yitzchak’s birth, Sarah demands that Avraham banish Yishmael and his mother because of Yishmael’s evil ways. Following this incident we learn how Avraham makes a treaty with Avimelech, and then the Torah relates the spellbinding incident where HaShem instructs Avraham to offer his cherished son Yitzchak as a sacrifice. HaShem then sends an angel to repeal this commandment and Avraham slaughters a ram in Yitzchak’s stead.

The negation of evil

The theme that we see running through this parashah is what is referred to as bittul hara, negation of evil. Circumcision is essentially a negation of the Evil Inclination and the materialism represented within. Sodom was the epitome of evil, and Avraham apparently desired, in the words of the Gemara (Brachos 10a), yitamu chataim vilo chotim, let the sins cease but not the sinners. Lot acted in a self-defeating manner, bringing shame upon himself and his future generations. Similarly, Avimelech encountered Avraham and Sarah, righteous people, and HaShem punished him harshly. Yishmael was banished from the home of the righteous, and Avraham and Yitzchak were tested in an unprecedented manner. This test, in a sense, was the expiation of any doubt in their minds that they could have possibly had regarding HaShem’s Oneness and His dominion over the entire world.

The Shabbos connection

In the prayer of kegavna that is recited by Nusach Sefard on Friday night, we recite the words kad ayil Shabbsa ihi isyachadas viisparashas misitra achara vichol dinin misabrin minah, when the Shabbos arrives, she unified herself in Oneness and divests herself of the Other Side, [any trace of evil] all harsh judgments are removed from her. Thus, the purpose of creation is that the Jewish People divest itself of all evil and harsh judgments. It is incumbent upon us to recognize that every moment of our lives is a test to choose between good and evil, and when we are victorious, we merit the holiness and exaltedness of Shabbos. HaShem should allow us to be victorious in this world and to merit a portion in the World to Come, when it will be a day that will be completely a Shabbos and a rest day for eternal life.

Shabbos in the Zemiros

Kel Mistater

This mystical Zemer was composed by Avraham Maimin, whose name with the addition of chazak, is formed by the acrostic. Avraham was a student of Rabbi Moshe Kordevero, a member of the Kabbalistic school of the Arizal, and he lived from 5282-5330 (1522-1570 C.E.)

מֵאַיִן תִּמָּצֵא וְהִיא נֶעֱלָמָה. רֵאשִׁית חָכְמָה יִרְאַת יְ-הֹ-ו-ָה,   from the Invisible One it derives, but it is hidden – the source of wisdom is awe of HaShem. Whenever one wishes to describe HaShem’s Wisdom, which is His Holy Torah, one is left without words. The reason for this is because Torah is beyond human understanding. Indeed, the Gemara (Megillah 6b) states יגעתי ומצאתי תאמן, if one says, “I have toiled and I have found,” i.e. I have achieved success in my studies, believe him. The Sfas Emes writes that the Gemara likens Torah study to one who finds a lost object. One can toil in his search for the lost object, but when he finds it, it is like a gift handed to him. Similarly, one can toil in this world in Torah study, but success in one’s studies is a gift from HaShem.

Shabbos Stories

Rav Aharon Kotler’s Father the Fur Merchant

HaGaon Rav Aharon Kotler told over a story about his father’s mesirus nefesh for Torah. His father was a fur merchant in Lita. At a certain period, his business dwindled, and it reached a point where his family was lacking food to sustain themselves.

Every day after Shacharis, his father would learn for two hours, and was mapkid on this learning period his entire life. One day, a wealthy merchant knocked on the door of the Kotler family, and informed them that he would like to buy a sizable amount of furs. However, it was the set learning time of Rav Kotler. His wife knocked on the door of his room, once, twice, and three times, and urged her husband to utilize this opportunity for his business.

Rav Kotler answered from behind the door, “Go tell him that if he’s willing to wait until I finish my learning, good! If not – he should go in peace. A person’s mezonos is set from Rosh HaShanah until Rosh HaShanah. If it was decreed that I will sell the merchandise, I’ll find a buyer!”

Rav Aharon concluded his story, “My father’s wondrous mesiras nefesh for Torah instilled in us the emunah peshutah, “When you learn Torah, you never lose out!’ All of my mesiras nefesh for Torah – I acquired from him!” (Tuvcha Yabiyu) (www.Revach.net)

True humility

Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky writes: Rabbi Dovid Koppleman tells the story of Rabbi Abish, the Rav of Frankfurt who was known for his extraordinary humility. In addition, he would often raise funds for the needy families of his city. Once he heard that a wealthy man was on business in town and went to the man’s hotel suite to ask him for a donation. The tycoon was arrogant and assumed that the Rav was a poor shnorrer, and after a few moments drove him out of his room. A few minutes later the man went to leave his suite and looked for his silver cane. Noticing it was gone, he immediately suspected that Reb Abish took it during his brief visit.

Quickly, the man bolted toward the lobby of the hotel where he accosted Reb Abish. “Thief,” the man shouted while pushing the Rav, “give me back my cane!” Reb Abish calmly pleaded. “I did not steal your cane. Please do not accuse me! Please believe me. I did not steal your cane!”

The man was adamant in his arrogance and began to beat the Rav while onlookers recoiled in horror. Reb Abish, despite the pain, remained steadfast in his humble demeanor. “Please believe me. I did not steal your cane!” Finally, the man realized he was getting nowhere and left Reb Abish in disgust.

That Saturday was Shabbos Shuva. The entire community, including the wealthy visitor, packed Frankfurt’s main synagogue for the traditional Shabbos Shuva Speech. Horror gripped the visitor as a familiar looking figure rose to the podium and mesmerized the vast audience with an eloquent oration. It was the very shnorrer he had accosted in the hotel! As soon as the speech ended, the man pushed his way toward the podium and in a tearful voice tried to attract the Rabbi’s attention. He was about to plead forgiveness for his terrible behavior when Reb Abish noticed the man.

In all sincerity Reb Abish began to softly plead with him. “I beg of you! Please do not hit me. I truly did not steal your cane.” (www.Torah.org)